Seasons of Change

I don’t know about you but I am so ready for fall. I want to pull out my favorite sweater and scarf and got sip hot cocoa. But I have some time to wait since it’s not even September.

It’s just fun to think about how fun it will be to play with my daughter in the leaves and go for brisk walks. I don’t know what makes this year so different but it is some how.  Any way, come on fall! 🙂

Knowing How to Stay Teachable

So I started looking over the proof work my wonderful proofreader for “Potholes of Hope” has done thus far and I have to say it has been super humbling. Not because what she has to say is bad (everything is good and needed), it’s like when someone else tries to parent your child for you.

If you have kids this will make sense. You know when someone comes into your home and tries to tell your child what he or she can and cannot do or how he or she should change a behavior? It feels like that. The person has no idea how they are being rude and trying to make your child into their own but it is perceived by the parent to be that way. Now I am NOT SAYING my proofreader is being rude. I have so much to thank her on because it is the flip side of someone else’s perspective.

Going on with the other person parenting your child. The mom can go two ways: Defensive or Teachable. Maybe there is something that the child is being allowed to do that isn’t safe for them or there is another method to change an unwanted behavior. It’s totally the same with excepting the proofreader’s suggestions. I have complete freedom to ignore what she says and keep the way they are which is a mess or I can be teachable and look through the material with an open mind and heart.

I have done the teachable route and do I agree with all her suggestions, no, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t good. below is a picture on how much work my proofreader has done. Now they are only one word corrections for the most part but there were some other things that really needed fixing.

So the point of this post isn’t saying that proofreaders are annoying but rather to keep yourself open. If you shut yourself off and believe that no one can contribute to your book (or life) then it won’t turn out good. We all need proofreaders to help us along the way.  🙂

IMG_20150825_125403849   Only people who love you will do this much work ❤

Feeling Absent

I know this has to happen to more people than just me. This feeling of being in a room but not really there. Has that ever happened the you? I feel like I go into my little world and everything to good. But why do I do that when things in reality are good?

My daughter is doing great, my husband is doing great and I am doing great. But still my mind wanders. Maybe it is something in the human make up that draws to to somewhere else? Or maybe I am just easily distracted. You know, like in the movie “UP” where the dog is constantly saying “Squirrel!”? That is how it feels.

Some times that is where I get my thinking time for my stories and where there are going. I have had to change some much in Potholes of Courage that it is crazy. It is hardly the same book but it is so much better now. I am looking for a proofreader for it soon and keep the ball rolling.

But I have to keep my “Squirrel!” moments down. I like day dreaming but only when it’s productive. Because I don’t want to miss anything in my real life. Eagle Mayes is a cool town but it’s not my home. My home is with my family around me  🙂

What Have I Learned?

I think it is time for a what have I learned post.

Proofread, Proofread Proofread. And then you give it to someone and have them proofread it again. I thought I would save money by proof reading my own word. I am super embarrassed to admit that since that is the most rookie mistake ever and now I have to live with the embarrassment of having to pull my book from sales.

So my book Potholes of Hope is not for sale on and I am not sure when it will be back up. But it will be soon and it will better than ever. I am super excited to reintroduce it to you in a whole new way.

I have learned a lot about marketing and sales which is the best way to learn is through mistakes. Hopefully I just won’t repeat them. So keep an eye out and look for the new and improved Potholes of Hope 🙂

The Yearning

Have you ever had anything that you couldn’t have anymore? This might sound funny but I have something that I can’t have anymore and I miss it.

I made brownies last night and what do you do when you finish dumping the batter in the bowl? Of course you lick it! Well not anymore for me.

Last year at Thanksgiving I got major food poisoning from licking the spoon to a cake batter. I was out for an entire week not being able to leave a bathroom. My poor husband had to take the week off so there was someone to watch our daughter. So now I don’t even think of licking a batter spoon.

Do you have something in your life that you’ve had to have taken away even if the warning signs are every where? It may not be food related but still.

On every cookie dough box it says don’t eat it raw or anything with raw eggs in it because it could have the salmonella bacteria in it. So now I have learned my lesson that I will follow the warnings on everything.

Because I didn’t like going through the after math of not listening was worth it. That goes for anything in life. Is there something that you wanted and did everything you could do to get it even though the signs were there to tell you shouldn’t? I know I do all the time but now I listen better. Because not being able to have brownie batter is a simple thing but not being able to have something bigger I want because I wasn’t patient would be horrible.

Teething and Growing Up

It’s crazy how fast kids grow up. I’ve always been told don’t blink or you will miss something. I knew it was true but to experience it is totally different. Just yesterday she was a little newborn who could barley hold her head up. I think this picture says it all. Also shows how cute she is 😉


Now she is walking, talking and even eating with a fork! Where did the time go? This was just from today as she walked around our house.


She doesn’t even need me to really hold her any more to get any where. Just yesterday she opened our slider and toddled her way over to her play set all by herself. I did run after her to make sure she was safe but it was the point that she could do it all by herself.

So not only do I have books, who were my babies before her, getting ready to meet the world but my daughter is too. She is teething her second year molars already which is just a reminder to me that she is closer to 2 years old than 1 years old. I know that this doesn’t seem to work into writing but it does.

Books go through teething and growing pains. Even though it is on paper that doesn’t mean that when you are going along writing a book and the plot takes a whole different direction it doesn’t hurt just a little to get your thoughts together. Or, like in my current place,  have a draft of a manuscript and am having to completely restructure it to fit in with the correct word count and to add more detail that I know but the reader wouldn’t it was written down. Right now that it like teething a molar for me.

Potholes of Hope was easy to reconstruct since it had had so much work done on it in the past. I just needed to add a little more meat so to speak. But the second book, Potholes of Courage, is another story. It will be a little bit probably before this one is ready. I have the opposite problem with it. It has great description but almost no dialogue. Potholes of Hope needed more description but had plenty of dialogue.

It’s interesting when you pick up an old project that you haven’t seen in a while and see where you were at that time. I guess I was in a description phase since I know when I started writing was and, maybe still is, my biggest weakness. I can see what’s going on in my characters heads so why do I need to put it in? Well that’s because it’s a book and not a movie. So that is where I am sitting with my own teething and growing up phase with the second book in the Potholes series.

My Heart is Happy

I’m super excited! My husband and I sponsor two girls through World Vision. I have done it since 2009 with my first child and then we added an addition to our family in 2013 after we were married for a year.

We love World Vision and wished we could do more but we felt like what we were doing was exactly what God was asking from us. Well we just got a letter saying that one of our girls’ communities had graduated so our sponsorship of her is no longer needed.

We are super sad since in some ways we felt like she was a part of our family. But we are thrilled to see what God has done in her life and her community. So I pray for God’s continual protection over her and her family but praising Him for His blessing.

What does this mean for the next step? That’s what I am excited to announce. We still have our first child but we are now receiving a new member to our family.

God is good all the time and I look forward to getting to know our new child and how God will work in her life.

Enjoying the Rain

Early this morning my daughter woke me up demanding a bottle. This is a normal occurrence when she is going through a growth spurt and teething. But this morning I got a surprise.

It started to rain and with all my windows open it was glorious. Living in CA people know we are in a drought so the occurrence of rain isn’t common so the fact I got to hear it at a time when everyone was sleeping was special. It felt like a little gift from God as a reward for all the very sleepless nights these past few months in my daughter’s life.

I appreciated it. It showed that there is refreshment right around the corner. Not just for our thirsty state but for me personally. This time with my daughter hasn’t been easy with her growing like a weed and cutting her last four teeth but it won’t last. Someday I will look back and miss hearing her cry for me at night. Soon she will be all grown up and I won’t know where the time went.

So I stood and listened to the rain this morning. I didn’t want to miss the opportunity. So is it with my daughter and the rest of life. I don’t want to miss anything.

Waiting in the Lull

Happy Thursday! We are almost to the weekend 🙂 It’s been a slow kind of day for me and I realized it was probably because now I don’t have a ton of work to do when it comes to writing but rather just waiting.

I have been telling everyone I know that I have written a book and everyone is really supportive. But that’s all I do. It’s now up to everyone who knows to make the decision to buy the book or not. Even though I want everyone to buy the book that doesn’t mean anyone will. Not saying the book isn’t selling. For a first time, nobody author it is doing well which I am thankful.

So I will just keep spreading the word and getting my name out there. And to everyone who has purchased the book thank you so much. It will happen. I just have to be patient and just keep talking to people. Marketing yourself is much harder than I anticipated. With the next book  in the Potholes series, there is so much more I would do differently. But that is what comes with learning and gaining experience.

I’ve been told to write what I know – done that. And now I just have to wait for others to read it, love it, and review it. 🙂