One area that is important to loving our bodies believe it or not is – Friends. I couldn’t believe it either until I read “The Daniel Plan” by Rick Warren Buy it here and one of the chapters was full about how the right kind of friends can be good for you and are necessary.
I know when I was a kid, I was not that great at making friends. All my friends had four legs and ate a lot of hay. (I grew up riding horses in case that didn’t make any sense.) They were great friends too, as long as I kept the fed and watered, I could talk to them for hours and they would agree with me every time. Of course that is not a real friendship. Building a real friendship takes talking back and forth creating a lasting bond.
I have to laugh at myself really because my daughter is watching My Little Pony right now and the theme is all about being a good friend and the bond of friendship. She thinks the ponies are funny and the colors are nice and bright but the message is what I hope will stick. I didn’t have time for things like that and, even though it is a cartoon and the controversy of letting children watch TV is there, I know I couldn’t come up with the cute ways they do about being a good friend. The show covers, honesty, loyalty, kindness, generosity, and laughter throughout the episodes. All of which are needed to be a good friend. Magic is there too and I’ll have to have a conversation with her later but in some ways friendship is magic. Just not the kind that they use in the show.
Any way, I thought I would just share that little tid bit. Even a purple pony can teach me a thing or two. But how do friends effect you loving your body? If you surround yourself with the right friends, they will only make you feel better about yourself with just their presence. I know I feel good whenever I hang out with my friends and I have some really great ones. It gives me a sense of worth and balance.
Now if you pick the wrong friends and just hang out with a crowd to be accepted then that is the bad way to go. Good friends will help your well being but bad friends will only suck the life out of you. I have had some pretty bad friends growing up and the only reason I hung out with them was because I wanted to belong. I didn’t want to put the effort into making a good friend and my body suffered a lot from stress and anxiety being around them.
Bad friends will judge you, talk behind your back and bring you down instead of building you up. Good friends do the opposite obviously. As Proverbs 27:17 states, “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another” and Proverbs 18:24 “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother”. Are your friends sharpening you or dulling you? Are you surrounding yourself with people just to belong somewhere or are your relationships solid and true?
Of course there is a friend that we can all have. He will never let us down and will always be there when we need Him. Psalm 25:14 says, “The friendship of the Lord is for those who fear him, and he makes known to them his covenant”. God wants to be your friend no matter what circle you run in. He wants to have that connection that you will run to Him for advice and worry and the good times as well.
Many times God was my only friend since I hadn’t taken the time to make many and I am so glad He was there. He gave me the courage to go out and make more friends. He was the one that opened my heart when it wasn’t very open. He was the one that showed me to the people I needed to be with and those from my childhood that I had let slip through the cracks. He showed me through His word and through His people how to be a good friend. Or at least I am trying to be. I have to admit that I can still be very lazy and not a good friend by not speaking to my friends for weeks at a time but I still love every single one of them. Many of them live across the country so that is why there is such a silence, but I know that I can just call them up and it would be like we have never been apart.
I am thankful for all my friends. Without many of them, I don’t know where I would be. Is that the same for you? What friendships maybe have been slipping through the cracks? Are the friends you have now being a good example of how to treat yourself with love or are they being harmful to you? One way to show your body love is by surrounding yourself with people who care about and who respect you for who you are. Don’t let your good friends get away.
Here is a little song that I love that talks about having good friends 🙂