To me, social pressures are the worst part of life but they are the things that can make us grow the most. How? Because when things are good and you fit into society’s circle, there is little room for you to grow since there is nothing to push you to be better. On the other hand, if you are not in the circle, you have two choices. Yay! Choices.
- You can make yourself to fit into the circle
- You can grow and better the circle around you or be really picky who with the circle you are around
The first choice is one that is easy and most commonly done but where does that leave us? I know when I did this to fit in with the girls growing up it felt horrible. They had none of the same interests or goals as me and I felt stifled. I wanted to grow but there was this type of barrier that was keeping me from growing into who I was meant to be. That was because who I was meant to be was not in line with how that certain social circle was going. What happened? They rejected me and I moved on to find better circles and to have a happy life.
Which leads into the second choice and that is to make yourself better to make the social circle around you better. In my case I had a lot of growing up to do and I had to go through a lot circles after that first one before I was able to learn anything God was trying to teach me. He wanted to go one way and I wanted to go another. I wanted to be with the popular girls in my circle but He wanted me somewhere else.
Don’t get me wrong, some of my closest friends came out of the social circles that I am no longer a part of, but still, I had to leave the majority to grow in the direction God wanted me to be.
Would I go back to those social circles now and try to be friends with them? Probably not because they weren’t healthy for then and I am not sure if they would healthy for me now. Any type of stress to your body isn’t healthy for it. Memories can bring on stress and in that state, there is little good to come out of it. But if you really want to go back to circle from your past and be friends with them, by all means give it a try. People change as they grow and mature so things might be different. Just don’t get yourself in a situation where things have not changed.
If they haven’t changed and you fill the same feelings you did as before, I say pray for them and move on. You never know why God might be saying “no” to that group or even single person, but He has a reason.
Because words do make a difference. Have you ever been in a group where you are the center of the jokes or you know for a fact that you can’t say anything because it will be gossiped behind your back? I know I have. I am comforted by God’s Word that these don’t go unnoticed by Him in Matthew 12:36 “I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak”. Since, as stated in previous posts, friends make up a lot about how we think of ourselves and the ability to love who we are. That is why it is important to hang around the right social circles.
Now that is just talking about personal social circles, but what about societal circles in like the media and the big picture? What about if we don’t fit into those circles?
I know that I don’t fit into the media’s “perfect woman”. I don’t wear a size 4 jean, or do my hair in the latest trends, or spend tons of money on make up and keep the perfect house. These are all unrealistic expectations that can’t be met. Even is we tried our whole lives, we couldn’t match to what society says we as women should be.
I am not going to restate things that I have already said since the design of these posts were to build on each other, but I think you as my wonderful readers know what I mean by not giving into society and its lies. We don’t have to be a size 4, we don’t have to have the perfect look in order to be beautiful. Life happens and some days the house just doesn’t get cleaned. And some days, the last thing you might want to do it apply make up in the morning. Those are all OK. Of course for me the clean house is an area actually I am working on to not be so up tight about since I can be a little OCD about it. Just ask my husband.
Any way that is not the point. The point is, we are beautiful and wonderfully made. I hope you can see how God loves us and He has created us to be the people we are right now. We are to love our bodies since He made them. He is the one who actually owns them and we are His temples. Corinthians 6:19-20 says “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body”. So no matter what society, your friends, the doctors, your family or anyone else in the world says; you are God’s child and He loves you so much more than you can ever imagine. As long as we remember that it is the Holy Spirit living inside us (which is part of the trinity) then we remember that God is there too.
He wants us to go about our day know that we are loved. Maybe we don’t look how we would want to, and that is OK. It is good to try to make ourselves look and feel better for the glory of God. He wants us to have those moments of happiness and contentment but as long as they don’t replace Him. Because society’s opinion changes with the seasons on what is in and what isn’t but God doesn’t change. “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever” Hebrews 13:8. So no matter what size you are today or in six months, God will love you. And when you know that then you will be able to love your body too.