Putting Respecting My Husband into Action

As women, the hardest thing to do in marriage is respect your husband in everything, and I mean in everything. I can say that because I just had to exercise it recently. See, one thing about losing everything means that you have to replace everything, and, even with all of the gracious people in our lives, we still had to use a credit card to make it. So we have this card and other things from last year when we lost everything due to black mold in a rental hanging over out heads, and the dollar in California doesn’t stretch like… at all. So with one income and owning a house and debt, it can be tight at times to purchase anything big that wasn’t already budgeted.

They say that the number one reason why people fight is because of money and they are so right. This is the first time in our marriage where money has been a problem. Up until now we had been debt free and now we are like the normal American family. Big time sad face.

So the thing that made me have to practice again all the things I have learned about respecting my husband had to do with a rather expensive item that would add value to our lives except in the finance department. It would have put us in total about $4,000 more in debt, but I really wanted it. It would have been something that has been needed in this house we bought since simple things like vacuuming the carpet and changing out the air filter seemed to be beneath the previous owners. But we just couldn’t afford it.

Needless to say, when my husband told me this, I was and still am crushed. It’s hard being a season of the answer always being “no” and you wonder when the answer will ever be “yes” again, but it’s that time that you really grow. Let me tell you that I personally hate growing because it usually involves pain and irritation and I can see the Lord is growing me in the area of respecting my husband even when I 100% don’t agree with him. You can only imagine how hard that is for me since I wanted this amazing item so much but my husband said “no”.

So I have a choice. I could go the easy route and pout about not getting it, which is what I really want to do, but what really is the point. It’s hard enough on my husband the fact that his paycheck isn’t providing like it used to, and he doesn’t need me pouting and whining at what he can’t provide for me. No wonder depression in men are on the rise. They want to provide and work hard, but their circumstances make it hard (like 20% of your income going to taxes cough cough) they don’t need their wives complaining and being a constant reminder of their failures.

Which will I choose? I know which one I want, but it’s super hard right now. It’s hard to be told no. I guess I see that I can even have tantrums like my almost three year old. All I want to do is throw myself on the ground and say that my life sucks, but I know that isn’t true. I have been blessed with so much that I would need ten blog posts to write them all. So I wasn’t able to the get the thing I wanted. It doesn’t mean that I may never get it. It’s slim since my husband needs to get a car first but maybe when my daughter is out of the house… Oh I hope I don’t have to wait fifteen years to get it. That would suck I have to say, but I know that my husband is really only looking for all of our best interests.

I pray that God will give me the strength to do the right thing and respect my husband from being the leader of his home and being a good steward of the money that he does make. That includes not buying the things that he says no to no matter how much I want them.

Have you had a time where you had to submit and respect your husband? How did it turn out? Did God bless you for it? I could use a little but of encouragement in this area.

Until next time 🙂

 

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Fellow Christians, We Need to Stand Together

I have to say something that has really gotten me sad is how the church has reacted to the election. I have seen brothers and sisters in Christ just attack and hate on each other like never before. Satan is just having so much fun since he knew that there were cracks to begin with and he has used lie after lie to wedge a dagger right in between. I makes me sad and heartbroken that, instead of loving and accepting one another, we have turned on each other. This has to stop! We are the salt on the this earth and we are losing our saltiness.

If we don’t get our act together soon and actually act like Christians, then we won’t be able to do our part to make this country great again. We need to be the example of what we want the world to do. The world shouldn’t be held accountable because they don’t know any better. They are going to cry and scream because that is what their master is doing.

I believe that God has some really awesome things left for America so he is freaking out, but he has figured out a way to make God’s work less noticeable. I didn’t say that God still won’t work but it won’t be as noticeable or impactful as long as His kids are fighting just as bad as the world is. I can just see God shaking His head going “what are you guys doing? Don’t you trust me? I don’t think you do because you are not bending to MY will”. If Hillary had won then I would have had to accept it and know that was God’s will. I wouldn’t go crying the streets and breaking everything in my path. I didn’t do it for Obama either. But now the church is doing the same as the world with their response. How is protesting and making a mess showing the love of Jesus?

We are all still children of God and we need to start acting like it! Myself included because I know that I have said things that really didn’t help the situation, but that is enough. I wish someone would just appear and be like the emperor on Mulan and scream “THAT IS ENOUGH!” I know I personally don’t want God to be the one because I don’t want to have the smack down session that usually comes with that. Think about the Old Testament. Does anyone want to end up like Sodom and Gamora? I don’t. I want someone to say that America is a righteous nation who follows God fully and with obedience not only have a handful to be spared.

We are so much more powerful then we give ourselves credit for! WE have the Holy Spirit inside us and we can stop this ugliness going on across our country. We just need to be the ones to make it happen. We are can start rebuilding the bridges that Satan wants to destroy because he knows that his days are short. He is going to do everything he can to ruin things for God and I don’t want to have to explain to God why I didn’t do anything to help. I don’t want to be a supporter in Destroying America 2017.

I want 2017 to be a year of peace, love, joy, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, and self control. If your are a believer, these are the fruits that you should be putting off. I know that my tree needs to be trimmed so that these fruits will grow because I have fallen for the same trap the devil has set out for this country. The only difference is that I want to get out and crush him under my heel. He might have gotten me down but he hasn’t gotten out. And you can do the same.

So will you stand with me in the direction of standing together to heal our nation? I hope so because it’s the only way things are going to get better.

Do I Really Need Facebook?

Checking your Facebook every fifteen minutes? Feel like you never put your phone down? Yeah, that was me. I was realizing that I was on my phone all the time when I wasn’t taking care of my daughter. It was rather pathetic. Not only that but I was also getting angry at all the political stuff going on in America before and after the election. I’ll jut say that I am not a part of the protesting group so I get pretty annoyed. So I decided that I was going take a break from social media apps and see how it will affect my life. That means I only can be on Facebook when I am on a computer.

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I have done it for one day and I can say that it has already enhanced my life. My daughter is happier already because  I am not on my phone and we actually watched a whole movie together. My husband likes it since I wasn’t all pissed off yesterday at things that I really can’t change. And I was happier since my family was happy.

Is social media really enhancing your life or just adding stress to it? Why don’t you join me and not be on it so much and see how our lives are better for everyone. I’ll keep you updated on how it’s going for me 🙂

My Latest Youtube – Video Let It Go Parody

I wrote this parody right after Frozen came out and then it sat in my journal for a long time. Then I recorded it last year and then it sat again. Now I wanted to share it with you and I hope you enjoy it. I am not a pro singer by any means, but I hope the words will bless you 🙂 Enjoy!

Side note: I had pneumonia at the time when I recorded it. After hearing it again, I was impressed that it came out as good as it did 🙂

I Am a Goat and a Sheep

I had a funny thought today. I saw on Facebook that people are sheep and just follow whatever someone says. Well, I was raised to have critical thinking skills so in that case I don’t usually go with something just because someone told me to. I think about the situation and come with a reaction based on my own opinion shaped by information I am given. In that case I am a goat. But the Bible says that I am a sheep, and I am. How can I be both? Let me explain how it is possible.

See, we people are sheep because we walk around not really knowing what is going on. Ok, for all you of who have never seen a sheep, the reason why people are called sheep is because sheep are stupid. They have no ability really of taking care of themselves. I had growing up a couple of sheep and the analogy finally made sense. Our sheep were so dumb that they would run away when we threw the hay over the fence and, if the goats didn’t eat it, the sheep would have probably starved because they didn’t have the common sense to come see what we fed them. They needed leadership to know what to do, and that is how Christians are supposed to be. We are read God’s Word and live by Him in order to know how to live our lives.

But there is a switch that happens when it comes to people who go against the grain in the world whether or not they are Christians and they are called goats. How to explain a goat? I would say smart, intelligent, troublesome, loud, and bold. They are awesome animals really. I like them personally more than sheep since they do have a mind in their head. But they are very hard to herd. If a goat wants to go one direction, guess what, it will only go in that direction no matter how much grain or hay you shake in their face. That is why in the Christian terms, unsaved people are called goats. They think they can do it on their own and more than like they will be eaten because they didn’t listen to the goat herder.

But where does that leave me? I am a Christian but I go against almost all of the culture around me both locally and on a wide spread scale. I don’t participate in local logic like the way city dwellers treat the world around them, and I don’t like the widespread issues like abortion. My Facebook wall shows that I am right winged and hate it when entitled people whine and complain when they don’t get their way, but the world around me says that I should hate white people, cry because my presidential candidate didn’t win, have so much debt to keep up with the Jones’ I should be drowning and should be ashamed to be an American. Most people just go with the flow and live their whole without having a single individual thought in their lives.

You have heard the analogy of the five monkeys right? five monkeys are put in a room with a banana on top of a ladder, but whenever a monkey goes up he is sprayed with water as are the rest of the monkeys. So whenever a monkey goes up, the rest start to attack him because they don’t want to be sprayed with water. Then slowly all the monkeys are replaced and each time a new monkey comes in, they rest attack them. When the experiment was at the end all five new monkeys wouldn’t climb the ladder but none of the monkeys really knew why. It was always done that way. That is how our culture has been formed in the last fifty years. We have strayed from the roots because someone like me decided to climb the ladder anyway and find out that the banana was worth it.

So what am I? I am a rebel and a follower. I am both!

I am a sheep because when it comes to life I need the direction of Jesus to show me how to live and love on people which then turns me into a goat because it is the opposite of what the culture around me says. How’s that for a mind bender? Never thought you could be two animals at once, huh? What would I be called then? A sheot? A geep? A goeep? I don’t know, but it is a very interesting animal. I can lead and follow, I can talk and listen, I can make decisions by thinking through but being open to other people’s ideas. I think being a sheot isn’t so bad. Are you with me? 🙂

My Travels to Colorado and Wyoming

My husband and I just got back from a wonderful trip to Denver Colorado and then to Cheyenne Wyoming. It was our fifth anniversary this year and we wanted to do something fun and different, so we decided to leave sunny-ish California and go to the Rocky Mountains.

Our trip started bright and early at the airport where my husband and I looked forward to a restful trip where there weren’t going to be any timelines or deadlines to do things. We had no idea what we were actually going to do but we looked forward to whatever the trip brought us.

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We landed in Denver a short flight later and we were ready to get going. After picking up our rental car, we searched for places to eat and found this adorable diner called Tom’s Diner. It was just the type of diner that should be in a movie. It was actually the type of diner I had pictured when I wrote my book, Potholes of Hope, which was fun too.

In total, if you are going to be in Denver, I would highly recommend this place. The people are friendly and the food is very yummy. You feel like part of the family as soon as you walk through the door. The prices are good and the quality of food is good as well. I certainly wouldn’t see the quality of food in a Denny’s that’s for sure.

After we ate, we Googled what to do in Denver and the Denver zoo came up. Since the weather was gorgeous, thought it was the perfect place to check out. It was amazing! Probably the best zoo I have ever been too. The selection of animals was breath taking.

These are just a few of the animals we saw. It was still chilly outside so the African based animals were mostly inside but we got to see some gorillas, elephants, and alligators too. This is another attraction I would highly suggest visiting if you travel to Denver. We lucked out for to not be snowing when we arrived but I think that this place would be even better in the summer time since all the animals would be out then.

But now it was time for us to drive up to Cheyenne where we were going to spending the most of our trip. There wasn’t any snow on the ground like I said so it looked a lot like home. When it really looked like Wyoming was the next morning. It snowed a good couple inches but it didn’t stop us from looking around the area.

Cheyenne is a super cute city. We went all around old town and Dell Range Blvd. and were very impressed. And the people are sooooo friendly! Being from California, we are only really familiar with rude people, and we can’t stand them. Of course we live in the northern part and people can still be rude. So Cal is were most of the rude people are. I would highly suggest no one go there unless you have to. We avoid it like the plague. But Wyoming, on the other hand, blew our minds.

We were interested in maybe moving there so we asked locals how they liked living there. It was amazing at how many people stopped to talk with us, and for a long time. They gladly answered our questions and were disgusted at all the stupid laws we have in California. My husband was impressed by the way they said that, even with the weather, they would choose Wyoming over anywhere. This impressed us to the point that we frown at the thought of going back to California.

So we just enjoyed the rest of our time because we shortly learned after we got back to the room that night was that both my husband and I get altitude sickness which would be a huge problem if we lived there. We thought maybe it would go away by the end of the trip but it didn’t so we sadly won’t be able to move to Wyoming but we highly suggest the state to anyone who wants to live in a conservative state. They are super gun friendly and it’s a no income tax state. The people are easy going and the housing prices are desirable. These were all the reasons we loved the state but above all the state is beautiful! We only have gone in the winter but I could only imagine the beauty that it is in the summer. Here are few pictures of our drive back to Denver to fly home.

Isn’t it pretty? Not the funnest thing to drive in but they do a great job in keeping the roads clear. We had very little black ice and the winds were low so the highway was an easy trip.

Overall, I loved Wyoming! I wish that we could move there and leave California but that doesn’t seem to be God’s plan for us. I am not sure why He wants us to deal with the horrible politics in our home state but He does. But, if you are looking for a good conservative state to move to, and you don’t get altitude sickness, and don’t mind snow, I would highly suggest Cheyenne Wyoming.

Happy travels!