Join My New Book’s Launch Team!!!!!

Hello to all my awesome family, friends, and followers!!!

I am so excited to share this announcement with you. I have a new book coming out soon and I need your help. I need you be a part of my launch team to get the word about a new book that will help tons of people.

It’s called “From Positive to Negative: A Journey of Healing from Miscarriage and Infertility” and I it’s about my story in this crazy journey of fertility. It’s a power packed book about the feelings of miscarriage, working through those feelings in a healthy way, my mistakes that I have done in my journey and how I dealt with my loses, and how God has a plan for everyone even after the painful loss of a child.

If you join my team, you would be required to do a few things for me. I would need you to 1) read the book, 2) leave a review on Amazon and 3) tell everyone you know about this awesome new book.

When you fill out the contact form, I will send you will get a .PDF version of the book initially so that you can read it before it is launched, but then I will send you a signed coy of it as a thank you for your support. This will cost you absolutely nothing but you will gain a whole lot.

Miscarriage and infertility aren’t topics that should be in the dark anymore. They need to be addressed properly. You are not alone in this journey that is full of pain and confusion, but rather you are very much loved. Please let me show you in my book and join my launch team today.

Use the contact form below to sign up and make sure to put your address in the comment box so that I will be able to send you your FREE printed copy once the book is published. There only 25 spots, so sign up today so that you won’t miss out 🙂

*USA preferred.

Sincerely,

Gracelyn Asay

 

Join My New Book’s Launch Team!!!!!

Hello to all my awesome family, friends, and followers!!!

I am so excited to share this announcement with you. I have a new book coming out soon and I need your help. I need you be a part of my launch team to get the word about a new book that will help tons of people.

It’s called “From Positive to Negative: A Journey of Healing from Miscarriage and Infertility” and I it’s about my story in this crazy journey of fertility. It’s a power packed book about the feelings of miscarriage, working through those feelings in a healthy way, my mistakes that I have done in my journey and how I dealt with my loses, and how God has a plan for everyone even after the painful loss of a child.

If you join my team, you would be required to do a few things for me. I would need you to 1) read the book, 2) leave a review on Amazon and 3) tell everyone you know about this awesome new book.

When you fill out the contact form, I will send you will get a .PDF version of the book initially so that you can read it before it is launched, but then I will send you a signed coy of it as a thank you for your support. This will cost you absolutely nothing but you will gain a whole lot.

Miscarriage and infertility aren’t topics that should be in the dark anymore. They need to be addressed properly. You are not alone in this journey that is full of pain and confusion, but rather you are very much loved. Please let me show you in my book and join my launch team today.

Use the contact form below to sign up and make sure to put your address in the comment box so that I will be able to send you your FREE printed copy once the book is published. There only 25 spots, so sign up today so that you won’t miss out 🙂

Sincerely,

Gracelyn Asay

 

Want a Book Review?

I am now offering a service where you can request me to read a book you wrote and then leave an honest review on Amazon. I give fully HONEST reviews. If I didn’t like the book then you will know or you will know if I loved it. the plus side is that I don’t give anything under 3 stars because there is so much effort that goes into a book. Trust me, I know. So take a look at my guidelines and I look forward to reading your book.

How it works: With the form below, fill out your information and put the Book’s Amazon URL in the comment section, and submit the form requesting a review. I will then email you a link to pay for the review. I will then go and buy your ebook to be a verified purchase on Amazon.

I will email you once I have received the book. Give me 6-8 weeks to get the review up on Amazon and then I will contact you to see you would like to have an author interview sheet sent to you.

If you prefer to email me your book, then feel free to email a .PDF version to gracelynswritingcorner@gmail.com.

What does it cost?: I request $35 per review. To cover my time and the cost of actually purchasing your ebook in support of your writing career.

What do you get in return?: A fully honest review on Amazon and my blog. I also give the option to have a free author interview after I finish reading and reviewing the book.

Genres I don’t accept: Horror, Murder, Suspense, Bondage/S&M, and would prefer limited cussing. Otherwise, the genre is at my discretion.

Are you ready to be reviewed? Fill out the form and I will get to reading your master piece.

Being a Martha and Married to a Mary

Ok, I will assure you all that the title is just a figure of speech. If you are truly a Mary married to a Martha I guess then it works but this blog post is about me and my husband. See, we are very similar but there is one area that we are very different in. If there is one thing out of place, I will work until everything is all done and my husband can, by some miracle, pretend that he doesn’t see the mess that is in front of him. He is able to turn that part of his brain off after the dishes are done and our daughter is put to bed. Me? I am picking up every last thing I see and putting it away and getting mad that I am the only one working still.

Then it hit me one night, while I was up still doing laundry, that there is a story in the Bible that matches this very scenario. In Luke 10:38-42 there is the story of two women who Jesus came to visit.  Martha was busy hosting Jesus that she started to yell and get angry because her sister, Mary, was just sitting at Jesus’ feet listening to him talk.

I get that feeling because my husband was in the living room watching TV or wasting time on Youtube while I was doing things that actually mattered. How dare he just expect me to do everything myself? But then I heard the voice of God speak to my heart and say “Gracelyn, there are multiple ways to serve both me and your husband but you can’t burn out”. I was like, huh?

I had been working my butt off all day just the keep the house running somewhat in harmony. What right did my husband have to just clock out? Sure my husband had been at work all day and then helped when he got home with our daughter. He hadn’t gotten everything done he wanted to get done but he knew he would get a chance to do them the next day. At that moment he wanted to just sit down and hang out with me.

So I dropped the laundry off in our room and went to couch to sit with him. He wondered if I was wanting him to help with the laundry but I told that I wanted to spend some time with him. This made him happy and we ended up having a nice evening together. I became a Mary and spent my time serving my husband in the way that he needed and resting myself after a long day of being a home maker and mom. And my husband let me know that he would help me with the laundry the next morning and he did. It was his way of showing that he can be a Martha too.

Why bring this up? Because I think of all the fights my husband and I have had in the past when we were first married about him clocking out too soon. I have yelled and screamed at him at how unfair it was that he was getting to relax and I never got to. It is actually quite embarrassing and childish now that I think about it. But, if I had just taken the moment then to listen to my husband and listen to God, it would have saved me so much heartache.

Just because your spouse does something different than you doesn’t mean that they are wrong. I’ll give one more example of this. My husband and I were putting out daughter to bed and I had washed her sheets that day so they needed to be put back on her bed. My husband took the lead and started making it while she and cleaned up. When I came in her room, I wasn’t sure what to think since he had put the character’s feet on her sheets and blanket at the pillow end.

I was a little stunned and told him that he had done it wrong. Big mistake. He explained that now she could look at (it was Ariel at the time) when she sleeps and that just because I didn’t like it didn’t mean that he had made the bed wrong.

Talk about an ouch. I wanted to show him how to do it right but I was too tired to bother. The next day was the day that God talked to my heart and I changed it to bring unity to our home. I couldn’t have made a stink just like all the other times but this time there was an actual change in the atmosphere. I changed and it changed it for the better.

So next time you want to point out just how wrong your spouse is on something, take a moment to think. Would it be better to actually join them and not correct them than to make your point known? Sometimes that is the right answer just like how Jesus told Martha that Mary was actually doing the more important thing.

What if We Wore Our Debt Visibly?

Hello! I know it has been a little bit since I lasted posted so I wanted to get one out today. And today I want to talk about something that many people don’t want to talk about since it deals with appearances. At least it deals with our financial appearances.

I remember seeing this commercial for some financial group where people wore the amount of debt they had around their necks. Then the point of the commercial was to get rid of the debt and not have to wear the number any more. But I was recently thinking about how we would view each other in society if that was the case. What if we worse the number of debt in plain sight?

My husband and I don’t live in the ghetto but we wouldn’t be considered to live in a “nice area” either. We bought a nice little three bed two bath house in the city’s outter suburbs. We are white and are the minority in our neighborhood and it can be a real turn to our family and friends who wouldn’t think this place as an option for them to live. Now to us, it’s fine. We love our house and our daughter is getting to see that God has made different skin tones and He loves each one very much. So we like where we live.

Now the other day I took my daughter to her day care center I take her too for some social time since she is a singleton and the thought about the commercial hit me. Her day care is in what’s considered the nice area where we live. Here my 2006 Matrix was the oldest car in the lot, and I was dressed in what would be considered very casual for the area. I didn’t have a name brand purse and my hair was in it’s air dried pony tail. I still looked nice but it wasn’t “at their level”. I mean, heck, I walked past a Lotus in the parking lot. So these people have money. Or do they?

What if the driver of that Lotus had to wear the dollar amount of his debt around his neck? What would we see? I think that the odds would be that he is in thousands of dollars just in his credit cards to up keep the thing. It would make mine that we have gotten from our crazy summer dealing with black mold look tiny. So here is my question, what is the true definition of wealth?

I would think it would be actually having money in your bank account. Now, that Lotus driver might actually own that car out right and not have any debt at all, but I am just using him as an example of a mindset that many have today when it comes to what wealth looks like. To many it looks like the Lotus in the parking lot and really not be able to afford it. How is that true wealth? If you can’t afford what you have then that makes you quite the opposite. It makes you poor.

What is your definition of wealth? Is it a fancy car, house or clothes, or is it financial security and living a frugal life until you acquire enough money to not have to live paycheck to paycheck? For me, it is the later. I would rather have a $0 on my sign and live with a nice but functional car, smaller house maybe in a less expensive neighborhood, not have name brand things and learn to make things myself. How about you?

I would love to hear your stories so make sure to comment below and I will see you next time. 🙂

A Strong Couple Jokes Together

Ok, so I know that April Fools is like ancient history this year but I finally got my chance to pull one on my husband. See, my husband is deathly afraid of bees and I have always wanted to get a bee hive. Can anyone see the issue with that? Yeah, I will never get a bee hive unless we have like a million acres and the bees are in the next county. Anyway, I saw it and I just had to go for it.

Costco was selling these starter bee hive kits and that’s where I got the idea. I called up my husband truly excited about this project even though I could hardly hold a straight face. Here is how the conversation went.

Me: “Hey Babe, I am so excited about your Father’s Day gift that I just had to tell you.”

Hubby: “Cool, what?”

Me: “Costco had these awesome bee hive kits for under $300 and I just had to get you one!”

Hubby: “Wh.. Wh.. Um. What?”

Me: “Isn’t that great?”

Hubby: “Uh, no. Please tell me you are joking.”

Me: “No, I really bought you a bee hive. All we have to do is buy the bees. We will have our own honey, and help the environment too!”

Hubby: Silence. “Um…” (He was trying to be supportive)

Me: “Gotcha! Happy belated April Fools day!”

He didn’t even have to say anything. I could feel the relief going through him on the phone.

You see, I have the most supportive hubby in the world and he will make almost anything work for me because he loves me. the one thing that I don’t think he will ever get past is his fear of bees. So, like I said, I  will have to probably always buy my honey but I did get a good giggle out of being about to finally pull a joke on my hubby.

What are some jokes you have pulled over on your husband or wife? I would love to hear them so leave a comment below with your funny joke, and I look forward to reading them.

With PCOS I Feel Like a Broken Car

Sometimes I just don’t know what to say. I think I know where I am going in life and then a curve ball comes my way. Then I go in a different direction and then another curve ball comes my way. I know that is just life, but it can be rather frustrating.

I try to listen to God’s will, but so many times I have no idea what that is. I think I do but then I don’t. You know what I mean? I think I am content where I am then something happens and I am back to square one. It then takes weeks for me to get back to where I was content because I have to grieve all over again.

I am reminded on a daily basis that I want another baby an can’t. I thought that I pregnant again even though my husband was supposed to get a vasectomy in the following two weeks. Since I thought I was pregnant we cancelled it, and now I am regretting that since we have to wait two more months for him to get it.

Where the frustration came in was that I was so happy with our decision and that we were moving forward. Now I feel like I have gone three steps back. Back to where I was when I lost my last baby. I was so angry with God then and I am back to being just as frustrated with Him now. I am trying to be content even in the fresh pain of that wound being reopened, but it’s hard. It is so hard to say God is good when I feel like He is being cruel for leading me on.

So we are back to square one with the whole baby thing and my husband has rescheduled his vasectomy, and I have to remember what hope is. It’s still good to hope even after your heart has been hurt again. That’s what Jesus would want.

He isn’t trying to be cruel because He isn’t that way. We live in a broken world with broken bodies. My body for some reason doesn’t do what it’s supposed to and I will never understand why. I am like a car with an engine, gas, and fresh battery, but it still won’t start. I have tried and tried but it still won’t change.

What I am going to do then? figure out a new way to get around. Maybe in this case my husband’s vasectomy is like changing the gas out for solar and now I will be able to move since I no longer have that one area in my life holding me back. It’s a good thing some times to change things up to be content. I can’t have a baby so we are getting a dog. We don’t want to go through this pain anymore so we are having my husband get a vasectomy. I want to have something to fulfill my life more than just being a mom and wife so I am going back to school. There is so many options for couples who have some that ultimate cross road of whether or not to keep trying.

But I know that I am not a broken car. I am really not broken at all. I am not a fan of it since I have always this – I am different. I am created differently than others because I don’t have the same path as everyone. It might feel like I am broken when I see other women sporting their baby bumps but  I have to try to keep at the forefront of my mind that I am made for something different, I have a wonderful husband, and a miracle baby who is playing with her dolls right now. My life is good and my life is full.