Why You Should Homeschool? Let Me Tell You!

It’s coming up. That time where you as a parent have to decide what is the best schooling option for your child. It’s hard that’s for sure. I am looking into that right now with my little one getting ready for kindergarten. Public? Private? Homeschool? It can be too much at times. But then I stop and take a deep breath. What is the most important thing here? It is that my child gets a good education.

One thing I have learned though is that the more I look into public and private schools, the more I want to do what family and my husband’s family did growing up – homeschool. Why? I’ll give you some examples.

Scheduling and Location

There is nothing better than the homeschool schedule. Why? There literally isn’t one. You can school your child when you are able or their activities allow. For once your life can run itself and the school system doesn’t. I remember road trips in the middle of February to see my grandparents and it didn’t matter because we were able to take our school with us.

With homeschooling the whole world is the classroom. The parents are free to teach their kids the skills they will need in life and not what the school system they have to only learn. You can teach math while cooking or changing the oil on the car with your kids for example on top of the state required material. They have the chance to engage in activities that other kids don’t because they aren’t in a classic classroom all day.

I was able to compete on my horses and train during what would be considered “school time”. But since I was homeschooled, I was able to get a jump start on everyone else. My schedule was get up at 5:00am and school until 10:00am. Then I would have the rest of the day to train my horses, play, read, or do whatever I wanted since I would have all my studies done before most kids had first recess.

Teaches Children Self Regulation

One thing that I loved about homeschooling was the fact I was in control for most of it. We had a program that all my teachers were on DVD. Check out the program here! So I would just watch them, do the assignments or tests, and my mother would grade them via their rubric. But that wasn’t always the case. When my mom first started schooling us, she was the teacher, but in many ways we were still in control based on our efforts. If I understood a concept then there wasn’t much discussion needed or we were able to move ahead. It puts that feeling of “you get what you put in” for the child.

Now I could have made it difficult on my mom and schooling would take forever and in the beginning it did until I learned the secret. Once kids learn they are responsible for how the day goes then they are quick to get their school done and out of the way for the day.

Because self regulation is a skill children will need in the real world when it comes to college and work. My classmates in college would look down on me as if I didn’t know anything because I was homeschool but I was my professor’s favorite student. I was able to time mange, get my assignments done, pay attention, and be self motivated to do well in the class. I never had to tell my professors that I was homeschooled because they all guessed, and they were always impressed.

Curriculum Freedom

The number one reason that families homeschool has to do with what is being taught in the schools. It is the number one concern for me. There is so much with Common Core that I am just not thrilled with and I don’t want to teach my daughter the concepts that way. But with homeschooling, you have the freedom to pick the curriculum that works for your child.

The child will have the chance to thrive because the parent can take the time to search and try new things that a public or private school teacher can’t. Could you imagine a public school teacher trying to teach a concept twenty different ways? No that is nuts, but a homeschool parent can because they only have one (unless you are blessed with twins or more) child in a certain grade at a time.

For example, I did go to public school for kindergarten but they missed that I wasn’t strong in math. I missed a concept back in kindergarten that I faked until I got to fifth grade and failed long division. My mom couldn’t understand why. Something was wrong but she didn’t know what. So she took the time to have me go through this new program and sure enough they found the problem all the way back to when I was learning basic subtraction like 1-1=0. (If you are interested, here is the program)

Now I wasn’t dumb. Math still isn’t my favorite subject, but since I was homeschooled, my mom was able to take that time and go back to where I missed the mark. A public school teacher can’t always do that. They have too many kids to worry about that many kids, like me, just have to fake until they make it, and aren’t able to be invested in like a homeschool kid.

More Summer Vacation

This was the bet part or homeschooling. Believe it or not the school year is only 180 days. that’s the amount of school time a kid needs to do in a year. Why in the world the school year goes from August to June I will never know. I always started the day after Labor day and was out the end of April. Here’s why – national holidays. There are so many national holidays that the kids don’t need to take off. The other thing is that sick days don’t matter. If anything we always used sick days as an excuse to  get more school work done so we could get out faster. All we have to prove is that we did 180 days worth of work. Sounds pretty good huh? So the kids might not get the national holidays as much but they will get a longer summer and I would trade a five month summer for two weeks off at Christmas.

Did That Help the Decision?

I hope that helped with your decision on whether or not to homeschool. Every family is different and so is very kid. I may end up putting my daughter in a public school for her first couple of years but she is a singleton and social is important. Actually in homeschool it it VITAL! The most vital part. If the kids don’t get the real world exposure then all the things they learned at home is void. They might be able to balance a budget and work a computer enough to be an executive assistant but they have the people skills of an ant then it’s all for nothing. The point of school is to give an education to children so they can succeed in life.

So to all parents who are looking to homeschool DO NOT FORGET SOCIALIZATION. It’s important. Get them into recreational sports, animals like horses, 4H, youth groups, music like orchestra, book clubs, chess clubs, motorcycle clubs like dirt bikes, BMX and any others you might think of. Learn what your kid likes and do that. Because the kids do need to be well rounded.

The good news is that, if you homeschool right, you won’t just have a well rounded kid, but one that surpass others around them. So have fun and enjoy homeschooling!

*Disclaimer – the links are unaffiliated and no payment was exchanged in their use. I just really love the programs.*

 

 

 

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Miscarriage One Year Anniversary

It’s hard to believe but a full year has gone by since losing my little one. I don’t know about you, but it has been a crazy one full of emotions, stress, confusion, and lots of tears. It has been a year that in many ways I want to forget, but I can’t. I can’t erase the image of the ultrasound where there was no heartbeat. I can’t forget my husband taking me in for the D&C. I can’t forget having to tell people that I lost the baby. And I can’t seem to heal my heart all the way.

But I have learned a lot about myself and those around me. I have learned who my true friends are and how strong my family circle is. And my relationship with my daughter and husband are stronger than ever. Without this year I wouldn’t have that. I hope you have seen those types of blessings too, Dear Reader.

Are you like me and just celebrated your one year since your tragic loss? Sometimes you don’t know what you want to hear, but this was how it went for me.

My family went to a theme park on the day of the anniversary and it was a blast. We had such a great time as a family and I didn’t even cry once the whole day. It wasn’t until a few days later that it really hit me when my sister went in for her twenty week ultrasound. That was when I felt a piece of the scab over that hole in my heart flake off and a few drops of blood leaked out.

I thought that I was going to be okay with other people having babies, but I guess I personally have some healing to do. That scab is still very tender and fresh, and, when it flakes off, that pain in my heart of hurt, loss, and desire come back. Do you get what I mean?

Many people have tried to tell me that the pain will go away, but they have never lost a child. Only people who have lost a child and a miscarriage specifically know the that the pain doesn’t go away, but you just get really good at hiding it. After a year you are probably just as fet up as I am with the sad looks and the ‘I’m sorry’ messages to last a life time. I just want to be able to be normal again. I want to be able to enjoy other people’s babies and not be jealous because I miss my own.

It is not a fun feeling, but you do learn to live through it and hopefully I will be able to overcome it. I hope so. I know I have come such a far distance from where I was a year ago and I am still moving forward day by day.

I know you will too, Dear Reader. You are strong and can do anything. How do I know that? Because you are still standing here today after the most devastating experience. If you can live through this then you can live through anything.

God has a plan for all of us and I pray that His hand of fertility stays on you even though it did not stay with me. I have my miracle and am thankful for her. She is why I live and my husband too. He is my rock on this earth and the arms of Jesus when I need it most. He has shown such strength and vitality when I know he just wanted to break down and cry most days. I am so thankful for him as well.

So hold tight to what you do have and see the blessings around you. I know that sometimes sounds hard but I know if I can do it, so can you. Take care Dear Reader and God bless.

Diva Cup Review

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The Diva Cup is great idea. It can save a lot of money and is good for the environment. Since it is made of silicone it can be better for you too since who knows what is in a tampon or pad? But that’s about all that was good for the Diva Cup involving my use of it.

   *Disclaimer* This post is of graphic material and may not be suited for young children. I have also not been paid for this review and hold all rights to post it.

So, how did I like the Diva Cup? I loved the idea behind it. I mean bye bye tampons and pads. What wasn’t there to like or to go buy one? For one they are expensive. Mine was $40 and it took me months to finally justify spending that much when money was tight. The only way I could justify it was because it promised to save me money.

I looked at the packaging and saw that I would need a size 2 since I had had a vaginal delivery and everything seemed pretty easy. I get it home and read the cleaning and use instructions. Seemed pretty straight forward. So I cleaned it according the instructions and inserted it per the instructions. What happened?

Well first, the thing leaked horribly. I took it out and reinserted it many times but no position made it work. I looked for help from the company and all the advice was I was doing something wrong. Some help. (More on their customer service in a minute.)

It was also very uncomfortable when inserted. I could feel the whole thing so I once again took it out and put it back in. I tried the C-fold, the single fold, put the thing tipped back toward my tailbone, not toward my tailbone. I think you are getting the point. It was like having four tampons in and then having them expand. That alone was making it not worth it.

Not only did the thing leak, but, the first time I used it, I got a bladder infection right after. I had only used it one day and it cause me to have a bladder infection. The second time I used it I got a nasty yeast infection that my doctor said only comes from using these cups. I assured her I boiled and cleaned the thing after using it per the instructions and she assured me that it is because of the silicone there is no way to get it fully clean. So I am just too sensitive to use the cup due to the fact that any bacteria will give me some kind of an infection. None of which is on the label as a warning that something like that can happen.

My last issue with the Diva Cup was with the company. Being discouraged, I went to their website for help. Turns out I am not the only one who can’t seem to get the thing to not leak or be comfortable. That made me happy, but what didn’t was the reply from the company.

On every single cry for help it pretty much just said, “there is nothing wrong with the product. The problem is completely with you”. Seriously? There is no way on God’s green earth it could be the product?

According to that statement, all their frustrated and discouraged customers are just dumb and incompetent to use the cup. I was rather offended since there is no one size fits all for people even though the company does make two sizes. Not every vagina is the same, and there is no way a company can just say that if a customer (paying customer by the way) is saying they have tried all the tips and nothing is helping that there is nothing wrong with the product. It should say on the box “may not be suitable for everyone” because it did not work for me. I am jealous for those women who they do work for because the cup would be a real money and earth saver.

So I would suggest that you look at another menstrual cup company and not try the Diva Cup. Go online and find another company who understands the woman body a little better and cares about its customers. Don’t waste your time trying to make the Diva Cup work.

Why Won’t My Kids Listen?

Have you ever said the title line before your kids? I know I have said that about my daughter too many times that I have lost count. She can make me so mad at times that I would buy her a toy if she would just listen to me. Have you ever been in your bathroom crying, begging God to change your child’s heart so that they will listen? That they know that you have what is best for them in mind? That even though you say no as a parent for their good because you know there is something better right around the corner?

Wait.

I have to say I was there but did you notice something about what you were asking God to do for you with your kid? Aren’t those the same things He says to us? Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all thy heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths”. Let’s now say in a way that might be easier to recognize.

“Billy, please listen to me. I know what is best for you even if you don’t see it right now. If you will just be patient we have something really awesome happening tomorrow and I can’t wait to show you.”

Now that sounds familiar doesn’t it. When I realized that I sound the way to God how my three year old sounds to me, I felt a little sick. I am an adult. I don’t throw tantrums anymore.

“Really?” I heard my inner voice say. “What did you just do yesterday when you didn’t get the news about your house that you wanted yesterday?”

“Uh.” I uttered internally trying to find an answer.

“See! you are no better than that little girl you are hiding in the bathroom from. She just wants to spend time with you, and, unlike God she can’t see you right now.”

So I wiped my eyes, got off the toilet and went back out there with my beautiful little girl. Because I realized that I was still a child in God’s eyes. I might be a grown adult in the world’s eyes but I am still very young in my faith. I have a lot of work to do so that I can be like the mature women of God I look up to, and I was not going to do that on my bathroom floor. I wasn’t going to do it blaming God for not giving me what I wanted and throwing a tantrum like my daughter had done for the twentieth time that day that had forced me into the bathroom to begin with.

What was I going to do? I have to say that I understand God in a whole new way after becoming a parent. I see myself as a youngster trying to please my heavenly father and getting upset when He says no. I am no different in how I talk sometimes to my God like my daughter talks to me. I yell and scream at Him because I don’t think He is being fair. Why do they have all the “blessings” and I don’t?

“Have you ever thought that you aren’t ready for them yet?” I heard my inner voice say as I starred at my daughter.

“Just like she isn’t ready to have chocolate right before bed. I wouldn’t be good for her.”

“Right, but tomorrow it will make a good treat and she will appreciate it then because she had to wait.”

“I don’t wait well.” A tear slid down my eye. “I don’t think it is fair how God works things that the faithful are not blessed but those who don’t do His will are.”

“I know, but you will see how it all works out in the end. He is still a good Father. He provides everything you need right now, and when you get the rest, you will rejoice even more than you would right now.”

I then felt a peace come over me. I knew that I would never not have another tantrum but I knew that I understood why God did the things He did better. He is looking out for me in ways I will never know just like I do for my daughter. One day she will thank me for all the hard work it was to raise her, but until then I will have to wait. I will have to wait on God as He reveals His plan step by step.

So I pray that you will be there right beside praying for maturity in Christ to handle the ups and downs of life. I pray for you to have a peace about where you are right now and that you will listen to the voice of God. He is there for you and He will never leave you. He is a good Father.