Why Won’t My Kids Listen?

Have you ever said the title line before your kids? I know I have said that about my daughter too many times that I have lost count. She can make me so mad at times that I would buy her a toy if she would just listen to me. Have you ever been in your bathroom crying, begging God to change your child’s heart so that they will listen? That they know that you have what is best for them in mind? That even though you say no as a parent for their good because you know there is something better right around the corner?

Wait.

I have to say I was there but did you notice something about what you were asking God to do for you with your kid? Aren’t those the same things He says to us? Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all thy heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths”. Let’s now say in a way that might be easier to recognize.

“Billy, please listen to me. I know what is best for you even if you don’t see it right now. If you will just be patient we have something really awesome happening tomorrow and I can’t wait to show you.”

Now that sounds familiar doesn’t it. When I realized that I sound the way to God how my three year old sounds to me, I felt a little sick. I am an adult. I don’t throw tantrums anymore.

“Really?” I heard my inner voice say. “What did you just do yesterday when you didn’t get the news about your house that you wanted yesterday?”

“Uh.” I uttered internally trying to find an answer.

“See! you are no better than that little girl you are hiding in the bathroom from. She just wants to spend time with you, and, unlike God she can’t see you right now.”

So I wiped my eyes, got off the toilet and went back out there with my beautiful little girl. Because I realized that I was still a child in God’s eyes. I might be a grown adult in the world’s eyes but I am still very young in my faith. I have a lot of work to do so that I can be like the mature women of God I look up to, and I was not going to do that on my bathroom floor. I wasn’t going to do it blaming God for not giving me what I wanted and throwing a tantrum like my daughter had done for the twentieth time that day that had forced me into the bathroom to begin with.

What was I going to do? I have to say that I understand God in a whole new way after becoming a parent. I see myself as a youngster trying to please my heavenly father and getting upset when He says no. I am no different in how I talk sometimes to my God like my daughter talks to me. I yell and scream at Him because I don’t think He is being fair. Why do they have all the “blessings” and I don’t?

“Have you ever thought that you aren’t ready for them yet?” I heard my inner voice say as I starred at my daughter.

“Just like she isn’t ready to have chocolate right before bed. I wouldn’t be good for her.”

“Right, but tomorrow it will make a good treat and she will appreciate it then because she had to wait.”

“I don’t wait well.” A tear slid down my eye. “I don’t think it is fair how God works things that the faithful are not blessed but those who don’t do His will are.”

“I know, but you will see how it all works out in the end. He is still a good Father. He provides everything you need right now, and when you get the rest, you will rejoice even more than you would right now.”

I then felt a peace come over me. I knew that I would never not have another tantrum but I knew that I understood why God did the things He did better. He is looking out for me in ways I will never know just like I do for my daughter. One day she will thank me for all the hard work it was to raise her, but until then I will have to wait. I will have to wait on God as He reveals His plan step by step.

So I pray that you will be there right beside praying for maturity in Christ to handle the ups and downs of life. I pray for you to have a peace about where you are right now and that you will listen to the voice of God. He is there for you and He will never leave you. He is a good Father.

2016, Why?

Today is a sad day for many geeks in the world with the loss of Carrie Fisher. She will always be that spunky Princess Leia to me as I grew up watching her in only that trilogy, but there is more sadness with this past year since it feels like there have been so many icons lost this year.

  • Florence Henderson
  • Alan Thicke
  • Gene Wilder
  • Muhammad Ali
  • Prince
  • David Bowie
  • John Glenn
  • First Lady Nancy Reagan
  • Arnold Palmer
  • Kenny Baker (R2D2)

And many others that would fill this blog post. It’s crazy the famous people we have lost in 2016. They seemed like they would live forever and now that they are gone, it’s just sad and I am awestruck but not in the way I want to be.

I grew up watching Brady Bunch and Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. I just can’t believe these people are not here anymore. I guess that we all have to pass away at some time but these people seemed to be special. There have been others that have passed on too like Robin Williams over the past couple of years. I still can’t watch Aladdin and Mrs. Doubtfire without feeling sad knowing that I am just watching a recording and he isn’t on this earth still. The same goes for the people we have lost this year.

But there is an added sadness for me being a Christian for these people because I don’t know if any of these people will be in heaven. Most I would say not which means that the life they had on this planet, whether it be good or bad, will be the best life they will have. So I guess, deep down, that is what makes me the saddest is that the fame and money will do nothing for them now, whereas, if they had had Christ in their life, the rewards that could have been there for them would have been ten fold what they had on this earth. In total, I hope and pray I am wrong I will be able to finally meet most of my icons growing up in heaven and I will be able to hear their story from their own mouths. That would be a dream come true in itself.

But we still need to pray for the families that are grieving. Know that there are millions of people grieving right alongside you.

God bless.

 

 

In These Past 25 Years

So this year I had my birthday. Yay! And I am now 25 years old… Yay! I don’t feel that old really. I still feel like a spicy sixteen year old but I am not one anymore. I am a mom and wife. I have gotten a college degree. I am now a homeowner. There are so many changes that have happened for me in these past twenty five years. I have gone from a child to an adult.

I look forward to the next twenty five years for sure. Within that time now it’s crazy to think that my daughter will graduate high school, my husband will retire and I will be an empty nester. Talk about another huge shift in life from where I am now with a working husband, a toddler and a very busy home. But I don’t take any of it for granted since I know how fast everything can be taken away. In a blink of an eye my plans can change and be taken down a different road. So these next twenty five years, I just want to enjoy the journey.